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  1. Tobi Schwartz-Cassell
    June 30, 2019 @ 9:28 pm

    Thank you everyone for expressing your opinions. I am open to hearing all points of view. I am especially happy that my references came in handy.
    Note to Peg Wilson: There were unsubscribes. 😉


  2. Peg Wilson
    June 30, 2019 @ 9:11 pm

    Great information Tobi. I’m not really sure how I feel about it honestly. I just know that people are people and everyone deserves to experience love in their own way. The one thing that I’m pretty sure about is that it’s not a choice. Thank you for sharing your views and the information. Only close minded people would unsubscribe because you expressed your opinion. We need to stop labeling people.


  3. Belinda J Rose
    June 29, 2019 @ 9:40 am

    I am in agreement with your beliefs. I have a trans cousin who was always “off or odd” through out her life. At 50 he started the process to become “she” and is the happiest she has been. But the story continues. She is a lesbian. But I too always think be who you are. It’s extremely upsetting to hear closed-minded chatter. Keep up the good work.


  4. Sue
    June 27, 2019 @ 1:06 pm

    No selfishness or hatred. We are all lovingly created and deserve love and respect:
    Straight/gay, the disabled/the able, those born/and those yet to be born!
    Love above all, towards all!


  5. Shalini
    June 25, 2019 @ 1:33 pm

    Beautiful! Thank you


  6. Linda Rosenson
    June 25, 2019 @ 11:27 am

    Who we love & acceptance is a beautiful idea for your post. We are all just people roaming the Earth seeking acceptance, love and happiness. Well done!


  7. Kristin DeWitt
    June 25, 2019 @ 11:05 am

    A very well written and thoughtful piece! My cousin is gay and is a Doctor of Psychology helping the LGBTQIA+ community in Florida. I am so glad that people are becoming more open minded and learning about the community. We have come so far but have far to go! Thank you for writing the story!


  8. Wendy Hutchinson
    June 25, 2019 @ 10:51 am

    Great blog post Tobi!


  9. Katherine A Nuyens
    June 25, 2019 @ 9:40 am

    I think it takes a great amount of courage to step out of the norm. I applaud all people for personal acceptance. Thank you for sharing the information, my friend! We are here to give and receive love to all. It begins with ourselves.(Miss you!)


  10. Rita Strough
    June 25, 2019 @ 9:06 am

    I agree although the many terms to describe I think further drive a wedge into our society because people become afraid they may offend someone. I say we drop all labels and identifiers and just BE whatever we are. Perhaps the labels help with self identification in which case that makes sense. It’s hard to know where you fit sometimes and we search for others who are like us. If I meet someone and I’m not exactly sure how they identify is it okay to ask “how do you identify?” I’m hoping that society at large will simply respect each individual and their preferences, not label, but treat with dignity. And two people who love each other should be able to marry and benefit from the societal rules around marriage like medical and financial decisions. Thank you for sharing this info and for inviting a conversation!!!


  11. Susan DeFrancisco
    June 25, 2019 @ 8:29 am

    Great article! I never could understand though why we have to identify people in so many ways. It’s kind of like hetero people being identified like ” I like it doggie style, or I like to have long hair.”…Everyone is just a person to me with all kinds of different personalities and viewpoints and sexual preferences etc… I wish we could get away from titles.


  12. Marly
    June 25, 2019 @ 7:54 am

    Thank you for sharing. Great post!
    I was raised by a very open minded Mom (who is 98!) who taught me from an early age everyone matters. Everyone. Whether they look like us, think like us, live like us, or not. Everyone has value and should be valued. By doing so it enriches our lives as well as others. ❤


  13. Ellen Carson
    June 25, 2019 @ 7:05 am

    Great story. Growing up, my cousin who was my best friend, was gay and it just didn’t matter. He was everything to me. I lost him in the early 90’s to Aids. People are people. Who cares who they love. Live and let live.


  14. Deb Faye
    June 25, 2019 @ 1:47 am

    Lovely piece. As the parent of a child who is a member of the LGBTQ+ community, and who is non-binary, I have spent the last few years wrapping my head around a whole new set of terms that seem to change daily. I must admit that I still sometimes struggle with using pronouns (as a former English teacher the whole pronoun and antecedent agreement probably has been the toughest adjustment for me!)
    But make a conscious decision to try and use a person’s preferred pronouns.
    You are absolutely right that we all need to continue to grow and evolve…because after all, isn’t that what life’s all about?


  15. Kathy Thomas
    June 24, 2019 @ 11:16 pm

    We are all people. We all have the need to be loved.


  16. Paulette Tamburro
    June 24, 2019 @ 10:38 pm

    Live and let live
    We are all human
    All lives matter


  17. Jodi
    June 24, 2019 @ 10:37 pm

    Thank you for that story Tobi. So many new terms for describing people… I recently found myself looking up the definitions so I would understand the differences. Always good when you are expanding your mind and understanding of others.


  18. Mary
    June 24, 2019 @ 10:32 pm

    This is an excellent message and resource! Thank you for sharing.


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