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  1. jasmine
    November 23, 2016 @ 6:52 pm

    More importanty who keeps a secret first. The woman or man.


  2. Betty Gibson
    March 6, 2016 @ 9:32 am

    Secretive – men may have secret credit for other than infidelity. Maybe surprise wife with jewelry gift! (We wish!!!), or to avoid arguments over costly luxury items like golf clubs. Also, there are business credit cards that are billed to the office address. I had one for business travel and although it wasn’t secret, I doubt my husband knew about details because bills went to office.

    Above is true also of women – surprise gift for spouse, indulgent gift for relative or child, the expensive gown for the office party, not wanting to argue over discretionary purchases. And a big one – Independence!



    • Tobi Schwartz-Cassell
      March 6, 2016 @ 11:32 am

      All excellent points, Betty. But I’ve always been able to maintain independence and still be above board with my hubby. I do agree entirely about the secret stash to buy him something lavish, though. I’ve done that myself. 🙂 Thank you so much for sharing! I hope you comment again soon! I really enjoyed your counterpoint.


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